My first meet-up group experience

I am finally writing about my first social circle forming effort, thanks to nfm and KDDr. It was Thursday, I found this social group near my house and decided to check it out. I was a little reluctant at first but after I spoke to KDDR I went ahead and checked it out. It was some bar cum restaurant where they served appetizers etc. There were two guys when I first went in, the organizer and the assistant organizer. The organizer greeted me and the assistant organizer said hi. The assistant organizer a white guy with his beer told me in a condescending manner not to tell girls that I am engineer. I don’t think he really liked me. Later I told the guys that I wanted to go yoga and come back and I got a weird look from the white guy.

After sometime some people arrived and these guys tried talking to the women. I sat there kind of awkward at first. Then I sat next to a guy and started talking to him. I asked him usual questions as to what he did, etc. I told the guy that I use play and tennis and he said that he did too. After sometime a female came and talked to us and asked us what we did etc. Later an older big chick came and sat next to me and started talking to me. She told that she taught human anatomy at a college. I told her what I did, etc. And then we started counting the number of engineers. After sometime the guy beside moved to talk to a female, so an older woman came and sat beside me. I started talking to her and asked her usual questions.

I told the big women what I liked etc. and she said she liked that too. Later another guy came to the group and I found out that he worked at my company, so I asked him which department he worked, etc. After sometime the older lady on the left wanted to leave. Anyway when I was talking to big woman to the left of me, the older lady was to the right of me, the big woman would be laughing at times, and she tried to say something funny. I don’t remember what exactly I spoke with her but I found a big Indian girl across from me kept looking over every now and then. Most of the people at the event were not very attractive, there was won decent looking Persian guy and one average looking Middle Eastern woman. An observation I made was the drunk white guy was trying to put his arm around this other decent looking latin girl, but I could totally see that she was not into him and did not reciprocate anything. But he hesitatingly continued putting his hand around her shoulder and tried to kiss her ear, she did not see into and kept looking at others. Then the white would stop and try again and she would just there king of ignoring that.

After a while, the big woman and the older lady left. I spoke to the engineer from my company for a little while. Then two white girls came. It was blond and a brunette. The brunette was tall but had braces. Everyone in the group was older than me, they were all in their thirties. Anyway the blond girl came and sat beside me and she started talking to me. She was a nurse and was showing her cleavage. She was probably second most attractive but nothing other than being blond. She tried to a funny girl. I some ended up on the topic of squats and she started performing a few, and showed me her calves. I exclaimed “nice calves”. The she showed me her biceps for some reason; I don’t remember what I said because of which she did that. She was texting, while talking to me. So I told her that was quite a multitasker. She kept texting so I pointed kept pointing it out at which point I think she decided to let the brunette talk to me.

I told the brunette that it was my first meetup group, etc. She told me what that she grew up in Huntington Beach, etc. She brought about the topic of pot when I told her I have friends in HB. I asked the brunette how the blond and her met, they tried to be funny, stupid and said that they met in jail. Then she told me that she used write scripts for porn, etc. She and her blond friend were trying to be comedians. The blond friend told me that the brunette pied in the pool beside her so it was like she got a golden shower for her. The blond asked me to get her a drink, so I pointed to water. Then she said ok get me water with lime, so I told the waitress to get water. There was constant conversation at my corner, so the white guy would be staring at me every so often.

I told the brunette that I liked family guy and she said that she liked it too, etc. At some point I told the brunette that if she were in her twenties that she would have been shy and insecure. She told me that guys are programmed to say stuff like that. I replied saying I think girls are programmed to react like that. I said isn’t Jamie a guy’s name. She then said I have heard that a million times and it was lame and that she was glad she got that clear or something, in an angry tone. I got angry for a second but then I did not react and said “its crystal clear” in a funny animated way. And then imitated the way she spoke to me without getting upset, to the guy beside me. The brunette did not know what to do and got angrier. The blond noticed that.

After that they did not talk to me and spoke the other engineer. So I sat there for a bit and then I spoke to the engineer, ignoring them, the engineer kept speaking to me, while they just sat there and watched and tried to act busy. After I while I told the engineer that I had to leave as it was getting late. So I got up shook his hand, at which point the blond exclaimed no bye’s for us? So I went close to the brunette hugged her and said bye. She told me to drive safely. Then I hugged the blond and said bye. I then waved to white guy and his group who were sitting across and then walked away. I guess I’ll go back till I get kicked out of the group. I am thinking of going to another Indian group now, so I had to hurry while writing this FR.